Before switching product try changing the way you are putting the conditioner in your hair and combing it through. Start by just potting conditioner on your hair from the point where you'd put it in a low pony all the way to the ends. Then, cup the ends in your hand and scrunch your hair up toward the scalp (like you would do with gel) and squeeze. That should work the conditioner in. Last start finger combing the conditioner through starting at the very ends and working your way to longer strokes until you are finger combing from root to tip.

my hair is wavy and coarse with frizz. in the shower I find it to make my hair slippery and very soft

This sounds like it would fit the bill for you, but I'm wondering if you've ever tried any of the Ouidad products including their double comb...

I wouldn't suggest this JUST for detangling. It definitely helps, but it sounds like you have a very hard time detangling. I would suggest the rosemary mint conditioner for that. I use it every couple of days to conditioner-wash my hair, or just as an extra moisturizer. I can't use it alone because my hair is so curly it doesn't provide enough hold, but as a detangler it is AMAZING!!

hope this helps....

This product is excellent for detangling, you also need a decent wide tooth comb, and the correct technique. You might want to let the product soak in while you shave your legs and then detangle. When detangling always section hair and start from the bottom. In addition shampooing your hair too often might be causing your hair to get very dry. I also suggest that you find a good leave in conditioner or if that is lacking you can always leave a little bit of this product in your hair after detangling.

Are you talking about website to website? Because if so, I would say the correct answers are either sephora.com or carolsdaughter.com.

If you are saying it differs set to set, that's because the products are slightly different. One set is for curly hair specifically, one set is curly hair light and the other set is the original